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037    |bPenguin Group USA, Attn: Order Processing 405 Murray 
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100 1  Komisar, Erica,|eauthor. 
245 10 Being there :|bwhy prioritizing motherhood in the first 
       three years matters /|cErica Komisar, LCSW with Sydny 
       Miner. 
264  1 New York :|bTarcherPerigee,|c2017. 
300    xvi, 271 pages ;|c22 cm 
336    text|btxt|2rdacontent 
337    unmediated|bn|2rdamedia 
338    volume|bnc|2rdacarrier 
504    Includes bibliographical references and index. 
505 0  Part 1. A mother's presence. More is more -- Debunking the
       myths of modern motherhood : making better choices -- What
       does it mean to be a present mother? -- Presence 101 : 
       being present and engaged to meet your baby's needs -- 
       Making it better : strengthening and repairing the mother-
       child bond -- When you can't be there : the benefits and 
       challenges of surrogate caregiving -- Part 2. The costs of
       being absent. Understanding the costs of being absent -- 
       When mothers turn away : postpartum depression and the 
       legacy of absence -- Part 3. Changing the conversation. 
       Why don't we value mothering? -- Where do we go from here?
       : making the needs of families a priority. 
520    "In this important and conversation-starting book, veteran
       psychoanalyst Erica Komisar offers a provocative and 
       compelling premise: a mother's emotional and physical 
       presence in her child's life--especially during the first 
       three years--means that her child has a greater chance of 
       growing up emotionally healthy, happy, secure, and 
       resilient. When that essential presence goes missing, the 
       child is at higher risk for social, emotional, and 
       developmental issues, both immediate and long term. 
       Compassionate and balanced, and focusing on the emotional 
       health and well-being of children as well as that of the 
       mothers who care for them, this book shows mothers and 
       fathers how to give their children the best chance for 
       developing into healthy and loving adults. Based on more 
       than two decades of clinical work, established 
       psychoanalytic theory, and the most current and cutting-
       edge neurobiological research on caregiving, attachment, 
       and brain development, the book explains: - How to 
       establish emotional connection with a newborn or young 
       child--regardless of whether you're able to pause your 
       career to stay home - How to select and train quality 
       childcare if necessary--and how to ease transitions and 
       minimize stress for your baby or toddler - What's true and
       false about widely held beliefs like "Babies are 
       resilient" and how to combat feelings of post-partum 
       depression or boredom - Why three months of maternity 
       leave is not long enough--and how women and their partners
       can take control of their choices to provide for their 
       family's emotional needs in the first three years"--
       |cProvided by publisher. 
520    "In this important and conversation-starting book, veteran
       psychoanalyst Erica Komisar offers a provocative and 
       compelling premise: a mother's emotional and physical 
       presence in her child's life--especially during the first 
       three years--means that her child has a greater chance of 
       growing up emotionally healthy, happy, secure, and 
       resilient. When that essential presence goes missing, the 
       child is at higher risk for social, emotional, and 
       developmental issues, both immediate and long term. 
       Compassionate and balanced, and focusing on the emotional 
       health and well-being of children as well as that of the 
       mothers who care for them, this book shows mothers and 
       fathers how to give their children the best chance for 
       developing into healthy and loving adults"--|cProvided by 
       publisher. 
650  0 Motherhood. 
650  0 Parenting. 
650  0 Motherhood.|2homoit 
650  7 FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS|xParenting|xGeneral.|2bisacsh 
650  7 FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS|xParenting|xMotherhood.|2bisacsh 
650  7 FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS|xLife Stages|xInfants & Toddlers.
       |2bisacsh 
776 08 |iOnline version:|aKomisar, Erica.|tBeing there.|dNew York
       : TarcherPerigee, 2017|z9781101992210|w(DLC)  2017002836 
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