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100 1 Siegel, Daniel J.,|d1957-|eauthor.
245 14 The power of showing up :|bhow parental presence shapes
who our kids become and how their brains get wired /
|cDaniel J. Siegel, M.D., Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.
250 First edition.
264 1 New York :|bBallantine Books,|c
264 4 |c©2020
300 xiv, 238 pages :|billustrations ;|c25 cm
505 0 What it means to show up -- Why do some parents show up,
while others don't? : an introduction to attachment
science -- Beyond helmets and kneepads : helping your
child feel SAFE -- The value of being known : helping your
child feel SEEN -- Presence joins us as part of a calming
whole : helping your kids feel SOOTHED -- Putting all the
S's together : helping your kids feel SECURE -- Conclusion
: From the playground to the dorm room : a look into the
520 "One of the very best scientific predictors for how any
child turns out--in terms of happiness, academic success,
leadership skills, and meaningful relationships--is
whether at least one adult in their life has consistently
shown up for them. In an age of scheduling demands and
digital distractions, this might sound like a tall order.
But as bestselling authors Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne
Bryson reassuringly explain, showing up doesn't take a lot
of time, energy, or money. Instead, showing up means
offering a quality of presence. And it's simple to provide
once you understand the four building blocks of a child's
healthy development. Every child needs to feel what Siegel
and Bryson call the Four S's: Safe: We can't always
insulate a child from injury or hurt feelings. But when we
give a child a sense of safe harbor, she will be able to
take the needed risks for growth and change. Seen: Truly
seeing a child means we pay attention to his emotions--
both the positive and the negative--and strive to attune
to what's happening in his mind beneath his behavior.
Soothed: Soothing isn't about providing a life of ease,
but instead teaching your child how to cope when life gets
hard, and showing him that you'll be there with him along
the way. Secure: When you reliably provide safety, focus
on seeing her, and soothe her in times of need, she will
trust in a feeling of secure attachment. And thrive! Based
on the latest brain and attachment research, The Power of
Showing Up shares stories, scripts, simple strategies,
illustrations and tips for honoring the Four S's
effectively in all kinds of situations--when our kids are
struggling or when they are enjoying success; when we are
consoling, disciplining, or arguing with them; and even
when we are apologizing for the times we don't show up for
them. Demonstrating that mistakes and missteps are
reparable and that it's never too late to mend broken
trust, this is a powerful guide to cultivating your
child's healthy emotional landscape"--|cProvided by
650 0 Parenting|xPsychological aspects.
650 0 Parent and child|xPsychological aspects.
650 7 FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Parenting / General.|2bisacsh
650 7 PSYCHOLOGY / Developmental / Child.|2bisacsh
650 7 PSYCHOLOGY / Cognitive Neuroscience & Cognitive
700 1 Bryson, Tina Payne,|eauthor.
776 08 |iOnline version:|aSiegel, M.D., Daniel J.,|tThe power of
showing up|dNew York : Ballantine Books, 2020.